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Family-Friendly Habits (free sample)

Tips for helping your youth program help parents.
See "Youth Director" Training Pack

Topics:Communication, Empathy, Encouragement, Family
Filters:Youth ministry, Youth pastor
Purpose:Ministry
References:None
Date Added:June 23, 2009
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Consider the impact on families when planning.

Time is always in demand for families, so minimize the nights you have students out for your events. More than two nights a week might be too much. Also, consider not scheduling events during busy seasons—December, or right before school starts—to give families extra time together. Then be sure to make parents aware that they have that extra time.

Also think about finances. When you set the price of camp, how will that affect each family? A family with two teens? When you build a casual buffer into your price, the extra cost hurts some families, so be creative with cost-savers. For example, if possible, charge less for retreat and have your students eat before they arrive and leave the camp before the last meal to save on food costs—even buying food on the road may cost less than eating at the camp.

Master the art of communication.

The simplest secret to winning with parents is to learn how to communicate clearly. Parents want to be informed about what's going on, and I can't count the number of times I've been asked questions that could have been easily covered through basic communication channels. Communication to parents should be:

  • Consistent. Every month parents should receive a brief list of announcements, your top five or ten. Parents will rely on this information if you send it regularly.
  • Concise. Most parents can't keep up with all their reading: mail, school reports, newspapers, magazines. They just need the dates and key details from you to update their family calendars.
  • Clean. If you're not a good writer, find a proofreader. Poor writing makes a statement about your youth ministry's credibility. Email your letter to a knowledgeable coworker or friend who can correct your spelling, grammar, and facts.
  • In advance. Early communication helps prevent scheduling issues. Parents should know your big summer events early in the year; you can save the minutiae for your monthly parent letter when the event gets closer.
Don't underestimate little expressions of thoughtfulness.

Parents often value small courtesies the most:

  • Returning from an event on time, not 30 minutes late.
  • A simple, handwritten letter stating your appreciation for the family.
  • A daily update left on an answering machine that parents can call during summer camp.
  • A smile and the honest words, "I'm praying for your family."
Take the trauma out of transitions.

Student transitions such as joining your youth ministry or leaving for college are opportunities to minister to families. When new students begin attending, call parents to answer questions and address concerns. Develop a team of leaders who share this responsibility. Most families will have at least a few questions. By calling, you provide a forum for them and can express your enthusiasm for their involvement.

Also, many parents grieve when their kids leave for college. Send an encouraging note with a youth group photo of their child to show your support.

— Doug Fields; adapted from Your First Two Years in Ministry, © 2002 by Youth Specialties. Used by permission of Zondervan.

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