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Urgent Needs Discussion: Death

What hope can I give to parents who've experienced a miscarriage or stillbirth?
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Jonathan   (Guest) Posted: August 01, 2008
Having walked through the stillbirth of twin daughters, the hope I can give to parents is the confidence that God can take a shattered heart and put it back together again. God can and will restore joy, hope and peace. My wife and I have experienced the truth of Psalm 34:18 that God is near to the broken-hearted. We have hope and confidence that God will be very present every step of the way as parents journey through the depths of pain and grief. Lastly, we offer the hope to parents that we know God will fulfill His promises, sovereignly working in all things to bring beauty from ashes.


Carmen Rivera   (Guest) Posted: July 31, 2008
Refer them to to the March of Dimes a not-for-profit organizational whose Mission is the prevention of birth defects, prematurity and infant mortality. We have the most up to date resources in this area and easy to access web-based support and information in both Engllish and Spansih. The national headquarters located in White Plains New York provides lnational support to it's 51 state based chapters (including Puerto Rico). Visit www.marchofdimes.com or www.nacersano.org (for monolingual spanish families)


Chuck Hazama   (Registered User)Posted: July 31, 2008
Walk with them through the journey. Just be there for them. Listen (don't talk and try to 'fix' things). Let them see the light of His love in you. Allow them to honor the life that is now with our Lord... (That's what - along with His grace - that has allowed us see His glory thru loss.)


jeff beckman   (Registered User)Posted: July 31, 2008
Having been there, I would say to them: As much as you cannot see it now, God has a plan for you, and even this is a part of it. Someplace down the road of your life you will turn around and say "Ah, I see it now. That was not the right time." You need to grieve, just as you would grieve any other death, for you never even got to know this little one.


Kathy Oyama   (Guest) Posted: July 31, 2008
Having experienced the loss of a newborn myself, second daughter, I would say the first thing to do is to honor the parents by respecting their feelings and processing through their grief at their pace. The loss of a pregnancy or a stillbirth, or the neo-natal loss of a baby, takes time to accept and should not be rushed. Healing from the physical, emotional and spiritual pain takes time. The best encouragement is often expressed by your presence, not your words. Many times people's attempts to say something encouraging ends up hurting the person more than helping. Just being there, giving practical support like meals and cleaning, and being willing to listen are all helpful. Knowing that God Himself understood the pain of losing His Son to death was helpful for me, as were references to being enclosed under His wings. Remembering that I had a choice of running away from God in hurt or anger or of running to God in my hurt and anger helped me to go to Him for comfort.

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